Why do people have sexual thoughts about younger children?
However, the majority of people who have had sexual feelings or thoughts about children do not fit the diagnosis of pedophilia and other factors contribute to their thoughts and feelings. There is no one reason why a person may have sexual thoughts about younger children. Although there is still debate about how they develop, our sexual attractions are thought to be primarily biological in nature and not something we choose, and it is not always possible to change them, however people do report that things they’ve experienced in their life have influenced their sexual attractions.
Not receiving accurate information about healthy sexuality development, intimacy and relationships, consent, and boundaries
Cognitive, emotional and/or social skill disabilities
Confusing and overwhelming messages in both media and personal communications about sex, sexuality, and relationships.
Drug and/or alcohol influence
Situational conditions, such as ongoing exposure to a highly sexualized environment or images - like those found in pornography or child sexual abuse material (CSAM), particularly at a young age
Other mental health concerns, like struggling with obsessive or intrusive thoughts or depression
One’s own experience with abuse - physical, sexual, emotional, or neglect
What’s most important to know is that most people do not want to have these thoughts or feelings, AND thoughts and feelings are not the same as behaviors.
If someone you know is feeling this way, you can let them know there is a safe place for them to talk about what’s going on - share our website and helpline with them! And let them know they are not alone. It might also be helpful to check out our blog: My friend told me about some concerning thoughts they've been having. What should I do?
Having sexual thoughts and/or feelings about children doesn't make someone a monster - and a single, one-time thought about a younger child sexually doesn’t mean that a person is sexually attracted to children. However, it is wrong and illegal to act on these feelings, and people who are attracted to children do have a special responsibility to make sure that they are always staying safe and non-abusive towards children, and that includes seeking professional help as needed. If you have questions or concerns about your own sexual thoughts about children, our blog: Am I at risk to harm a child because of my thoughts? below might help to answer any additional questions you might have about your own thoughts and feelings in the meantime.
If you have questions, text us at 1.888.532.0550 to start a confidential conversation. It is important and helpful to talk about your feelings, get the support you need, and learn how to control your behaviors when these feelings come up. Understanding and support is available - you are not alone!