FAQs: Is my friend OK?
Worried about someone else’s sexual thoughts, interests, comments and behaviors

Maybe you have seen something that has concerned you, or you overheard a friend say something that just did not seem right. Perhaps a friend has shared with you that they have thoughts or feelings about something sexual that seems harmful or even illegal, such as a sexual attraction for younger children or a fantasy that involves non-consensual aggression or violence, and you are wondering if there is anything you should do.

It can be uncomfortable or even shocking to learn that someone you are close with might feel this way. But if you feel you want to do something, there are things you can do and ways you can check-in with your friend. You don’t have to think this through by yourself. Read through the steps below or feel free to reach out to our confidential helpline for support or any questions you may have.

It’s OK to ask questions. Here are the most common ones we hear: